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Hello, welcome to the well. Today we're going to talk about being your own advocate and allowing space for advocacy in your life. So learning how to be a good one and also being a good one to yourself. Until you go through crisis, it's really a foreign concept to really understand the significance of what advocacy is going to mean in your life. But it's probably one of the.
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most important skill sets you're ever going to learn. And when we're talking about micro shifts and really coming into the best self and how we can sort of shed the things that aren't serving us and really acquire better qualities that really bring us closer to our ability to maneuver through this world. You know, through this 3D existence. And one very important thing is to know, do I self-advocate for myself? First and foremost, not even that you're able to do it for others, but are you able to do it for yourself?
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And I just want to ask you that question. Do you speak up for yourself when you're getting passed over? I think we just went over Passover, didn't we? Way different significance. I was just listening to a podcast, talked about Passover and Passover can be a good thing, like at that time. It also can be a not so good thing.
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So are you getting passed over for opportunities? Because I'm, Because it's been hard for you to raise your raise your hand. If you've been looked over and this is probably one of my, biggest things in my life that has caused me trouble. You know, I had this thing when I was married, I would get left in doctor's offices and I couldn't self-advocate for myself. So I would get stuck for hours. They would put me in. And for some reason, I once waited eight hours.
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and they got to the end of their day and they're like, oh, what are you doing here? We're closing up. That is how bad I was at standing up for myself. And my husband didn't believe me that I could, they could be so ignorant and miss me so many times because he was a paramedic and a first responder. And he just didn't understand how that could ever happen, to somebody so often as it did to me. So he started coming with me and then he would see it.
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He's like, what is happening? Are you invisible? Like, I think I made myself all so small in the field where people, more help than I did. I know it's ridiculous. I don't even know how to defend it except for that when you have a problem standing for yourself, you're going to have a lot of problems in life in general. It just it's going to breed problems. So how often do you think about if you stand for yourself? How often do you think about that? Honestly? Yeah. I mean, you do when you.
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don't want to be seen in the well, right? Or you don't want to, when people are taking their pictures and, you know, doing what we prompted, you're not. And you didn't. And other people didn't too. So you just kind of like stay in the rafters. You think, well, they're not going to notice because only a few people did. We notice. But I understand. I didn't do it for myself. I'm telling you, if you can find a, safe place and you can self-advocate for yourself by just being witnessed, by just speaking up for.
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your needs, by expressing what you need in life. If you can do that with us at the well, if you can just say, I need some support today. I really need to vent today. I really need to express myself today. You're going to change and you're going to heal. And I can guarantee that. I can literally guarantee that if you just started the well, if you advocate for others, you can start to.
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learn how to advocate for yourself. I think a lot of mothers do that naturally. You know, we stand up for our children. We stand up for our loved ones. We stand up for the vulnerable. It's even sort of something we do as women, you know, we have that compassionate heart, most of us, but we're not good advocates for ourselves or others.
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If we don't have a good pulse, like you could be that person who stands up and says what you need, but if you can't feel what other people are needing to or what they're being involved in in that situation, it can actually be negative too. So all the things you're worried about speaking up about sometimes can make us frozen like what we're talking about in the other download. Be careful to not let your frozenness and your overthinking put a halt on your ability to express what you need.
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In fact, it came up in my session today where a woman, she was just always afraid of bothering people. And so she was actually offending them because she'd say, you know, I don't want to bother you or I don't want. And they're like, well, I'm here for you, you know, made them feel bad for her not feeling safe with them, you know, that they were going to meet her needs. And do you do that? I do that. I feel like I'm intruding when I'm asking for help.
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And so I haven't gotten a lot of help in my life, but I'm starting to. I'm starting to get a lot better help. But I know that I've had a problem with that. So clearly advocacy is something I'm working through, but I'm kind of enjoying it because I'm really realizing first, I advocated today a lot for my dear friend who had open heart surgery. and is you know not getting the best care and Sean was really helpful and her boyfriend was.
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really helpful so kudos to Sean um but I am good pretty good at medical stuff and um and so you, know that's a place where I don't ever want the people I love or care about to not get good care because those can be life or death situations they can have a successful surgery but then get an infection or get pneumonia and then it's over you know so learn advocacy for your loved ones.
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learn that learn the importance of speaking up on the front end of things do you see how important, advocacy is even though it's a word we don't think about that much in our daily life but not having it could change your whole life you could take your life and it could take someone else's life, So it's a beautiful, potent and powerful word and it's an art.
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And I think that if you can just start to pivot into your voice, your presence, your ability to be seen, your desire to be witnessed and not in that showy way, but in the very like practical. If I'm witness, people can, they can connect with me better energetically, frequency wise, electromagnetically, they can connect to me better.
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And that's a form of self advocacy is to be seen. I mean, it's just I could go on and on and on about how important this is. And I really want to invite you to think about this now, because now that I brought it up, I brought it into. To the field. It is going to come up in so many different areas that in May, I encourage you to continue the conversation and ask me questions.
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If you start finding that, you start realizing how many holes in your aura are where you haven't spoken for yourself or stood up for what you believe is right. Now, you can really stand up for things that you believe are right for others and not do it for yourself. That's probably the most common, isn't it? So I really, really am encouraging you to not just think outwardly, focus, which is very commendable to a point.
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Until it takes away from your ability to self-create your life and you can't do it. I promise you, you are going to be less in the world, the person that you came to be. If you can't stand for you, so you are your blessed advocate, you. You're your blessed advocate, you.
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Okay, that was kind of fun. It's kind of fun to look at some words that don't get used very often and end up being extremely important to master. And I really loved today, and I hope that this is going to be one you go back to again and again. Even though it might not have been one that you'd be initially drawn to, you can see how it could be so life-changing. All right, I can't wait to really welcome you into the well tomorrow.
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because it's our closing download for April. And April has been an amazing month because, It's been a lot about designing our color palette for our life and April showers wash that palette clean so we can put up the new colors of our personal brand and our expression and how we paint the colors of our life through the essences of the flowers and our imagination in nature and all the colorful ways that beauty expresses through our lives.
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And we know that April showers and all this cleaning is going to bring those May flowers. May is going to be really, really neat because we're going to get into that divine charisma. And there's a polishing up of our aura that really amplifies our magnetic frequency. So I can't wait to dig deep into that. So for the next, you know,
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little bit of time the next days you know week or so you've got some time to revisit all these downloads enjoy it and you've got one more coming tomorrow and then we're going to do our closing call and I really want you to prepare for that call I want to hear about I want you to hear I really want to hear on Monday night about what did you want to do better for yourself did you dig in deep enough and how can you really close out the end of April and next phase to really.
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really boost your energy to catalyze all the shifts that you're really ready to make so we're going to do an attunement tomorrow and I can't wait to see you in the mail in the mail well all right
