Dear Mystic Ali: Why Do I Feel Unloved and Unseen by My Mother?

Dear Mystic Ali,
I keep finding myself in relationships where I feel invisible, overlooked, or unworthy of love. Deep down, I know it comes from my relationship with my mother. She was emotionally unavailable—cold, critical, and always distant. No matter how much I achieved or how hard I tried to please her, I never felt seen. Now, as an adult, I notice I’m constantly chasing approval from others and terrified of rejection. How do I heal this?

Mystic Ali’s Response

Beloved,
The wound you carry is not just yours. It is ancient, woven through generations of mothers who could not give what they themselves were denied. When a mother is unable to nurture, attune, or reflect back her child’s worth, that child grows up with a hollow space inside—a place that whispers, “You are not enough.”

This is the essence of the mother wound:

• Feeling unseen or unworthy, no matter how much you accomplish.

• Believing love must be earned through achievement, sacrifice, or perfection.

• Carrying shame that is not yours—ancestral pain passed down like a thread.

Your longing for love, your fear of rejection, your exhaustion from over-giving—these are not signs of weakness. They are the fingerprints of an unmet need: the primal need to be cherished simply for existing.

The Invitation to Heal

Healing the mother wound begins not with her, but with you.
It begins with mothering yourself in the way you have always deserved.

1. Witness the Pattern. Each time you notice yourself chasing approval, pause. Place a hand on your heart and whisper: “I see you. You do not need to earn love. You are already worthy.”

2. Grieve the Loss. Allow yourself to feel the sorrow of what was not given. Cry for the child who longed to be held, to be told she was enough. This grief is not weakness—it is sacred.

3. Break the Inheritance. Say aloud: “The unworthiness ends with me. I choose to belong to myself. I choose to love myself into wholeness.”

4. Call in the Divine Mother. In stillness, imagine being held by a presence greater than your human mother—a presence that is infinitely tender, soft, and unconditional. Let Her remind you: you are beloved, cherished, and complete.

A Sacred Reframe

Your mother’s distance does not mean you are unlovable.
It means she was carrying her own unhealed wound.
When you heal, you heal not only yourself, but the generations before and after you.

You are not invisible.
You are not unworthy.
You are not broken.

You are the sacred daughter of the Divine, rising now to reclaim what has always been yours: your right to be seen, to be loved, and to exist in joy.

A Practice for You Tonight:
Light a single candle. Sit before it, and whisper:
“I release the need to earn love. I am love. I mother myself now, and I am whole.”

Let the flame remind you that even the smallest spark of love within you can ignite a whole lineage of healing.

With tenderness,
Mystic Ali

✨ Are you ready to heal the mother wound?
Join me for the Women of the Well: Heal the Mother Wound 21-Day Group Coaching Program and step into a new way of being held, seen, and loved.

👉 https://www.mysticaliofficial.com/offers/2Cv7QjGe/checkout